
I’m not an anti-union guy; I can even tell you how “Union Maid” is based on “Red Wing,” give alternate lyrics for each and play it on the banjo. I don’t sing very well, though.
I’ve mentioned in the past some bits that appeared on Edwize, the UFT’s blog. There’s subtle contempt for all the non-educators: parents, businesspeople, researchers, etc.
If you’re not [or haven’t been] in the trenches, you generally don’t count.
It’s an argument that I don’t find compelling, but there are good ways to make it and important points to be discussed. That’s why I wanted to parse the comments of today’s Edwize diarist, a first-year 2nd grade teacher in NYC.
Here’s one of our trench-lieutenants giving us an excellent glimpse into flawed teacher education, poor administration/mentoring, and a bizarrely-inexperienced attitude about it all.
Surviving Parent Teacher Conferences
“My first round of Parent Teacher Conferences in November went fairly smoothly. The parents were kind and supportive, and as a first year teacher, I was secretly surprised by how confident they were in me and my judgement [sic].”
They went smoothly - that is good. We should aim for parent/teacher conferences that go smoothly [even if they sometimes don’t]. Saying parents were kind and supportive *might* be condescending… I can’t tell yet.
But you were shocked that parents, most of whom are good people, want the best for their children and have faith in their school system, gave you the benefit of the doubt. That’s a little disturbing.
I am not confident in your ability to spell “judgment.” [Fine, fine, the teacher may be British.]
“Sure, I had been a little more critical this time around, but I felt I could back up all the number grades I had given with work samples, and all the behavior comments with specific examples. Shows how little I know.”
You *feel* that you have evidence? That’s the neat thing about evidence: it’s there or it’s not. Feelings really don’t factor in, especially when you’re trying to bolster the meaning of data.
What you’ve shown here is how little you know. But you’re a first year teacher, so the situation isn’t as dire as it might be.
“This round of Parent Teacher Conferences felt kind of like being in combat. I had many parents who were disappointed and wanted answers.”
Woah! The nerve of those nosy buggers!
“The conferences I had ranged from the bizarre to the tragic. I had one mother who pulled out her ipod phone and asked if I would mind being on speaker phone with her husband since he couldn’t get out of work. I didn’t feel I could say no.”
Oh, that’s weird. Downright freaky.
First, it’s an iPhone, not an ipod phone. Second, why on earth would you say no? It’s just a conference call. You should be thrilled that they’re making efforts to get both parents in on the discussion.
Is it really that awkward?
I hate to break it to you, newbie… but this is New York State. Any of those parents could’ve recorded your conversation and you’d have never known. That’s legal. Maybe it happened, maybe it didn’t, but you’re freaking out about a phone in plain view that allows you to speak to both parents at the same time.
“My attempts to explain what was happening with their son were interrupted by him saying “I can’t hear you, please speak INTO the phone.—
Oh, that’s terrible! Does your health insurance cover therapy for PTSD? I hope so.
“Then there was the mother who refused to get her daughter evaluated, despite years of pleading from teachers and the administration. During the course of our 40 minute meeting, she pulled out a copy of what she said was a writing sample she had just pulled out of her daughter’s backpack, with much of it erased and written over. The handwriting didn’t remotely resemble her daughters. When I told her that the handwriting didn’t look like her daughters, she told me I didn’t know what I was talking about. She flatly refused to even consider an evaluation for her daughter who has already been held over and who struggles in all subject areas.”
That is incredibly frustrating - I feel bad for the kid, the parent and the teacher[s]. I’m sorry that any of you have to deal with situations like this. I have no idea why the parent would go to such lengths to *avoid* help for her child, but I’m sure it’s a complex situation. I am with you on this one.
“Then there were the parents who demanded to know how I came up with a two (below grade level standard) for their daughter in spelling.”
This is a reasonable thing, despite your tendentious language. Demanded! Those rapscallions… those parents and their sense of entitlement…
Parents deserve simple, clear answers to questions like this. They’re asking about methodology and evidence - it isn’t hard to satisfy their inquiries. If your conclusion is genuine - and if you know the difference between your [redacted] and your elbow - it’s an easy question that you should want to field.
“The mother wanted to know why I hadn’t given progress reports until now, and the father said it felt like the grades I gave had come out of nowhere and were a complete surprise to them. It was only later that I realized I should have said that the whole point of report card was to give them a progress report.”
That you think report cards that come out every 10 weeks are an effective way to communicate students’ needs to parents worries me.
A lot. A lot a lot.^2
“I was very surprised by how many parents seemed upset about minor behavior comments. I wrote lengthy comments about each student, many of them glowing. The behavior comments I wrote were extremely tame, often nowhere close to describing what their child has been doing in class. But I learned that parents react strongly to even slight criticism of their son or daughter.”
Congrats on writing lengthy comments - too many teachers don’t take advantage of opportunities to communicate. I don’t know why you’re surprised, though… plenty of parents feel responsible for the behavior of their young children. I’d argue that all the good ones feel it. Do you really need to be a parent to see this?
“During the course of the day, I also began to really doubt my own management skills. As a first year teacher, I of course have struggled with management so I realized that it was very likely me and my own management skills that have been the problem.”
You probably should doubt your management skills - few first-year teachers [those few being the stuff of legend] have a handle on not only classroom management/planning, but also managing relationships with parents. Doubting skills breeds realization [in theory] and then you can take necessary steps - going to a mentor or even reading - to get better.
I wouldn’t blame yourself, though. If you went to ed school, they had 4 years with you [assuming you’re waiting on that MA] and failed to teach you about the most seminal professional relationship that you’ll have as a teacher: teacher and parent.
If you pursued alternative certification, you didn’t have 4 years of training, but for whatever reason - likely time constraints and opportunity cost - they didn’t cover it properly.
You should not have entered the job unprepared. The training to which you were subjected failed to equip teachers with all the basic skills they needed to teach effectively.
But even if your training wasn’t adequate, your administration should step in. If your supervisors aren’t helping [or can’t help] find someone who can. You are at a public school in Brooklyn, not an 18th century one-room schoolhouse in the isolated wilderness of Kan-tuck-ee.
You are also an adult who is capable of seeking out resources to solve problems, so maybe you should blame yourself a teeny bit.
“One funny conference with a dad turned into a half-hour conversation about the fate of Gov. Spitzer with only a short mention of his daughter’s progress. I have a feeling his wife may not let him go to conferences alone next time.”
This is your fault. It is your responsibility to keep the conversation on task. You’re the teacher - lead the conference.
I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t have some candid [read: “normal human being”] conversations - it’ll lighten the mood and open up parents - but you chose to have a fun, easy conversation instead of talking about the student. That’s bad and I don’t find it all that funny.
“Overall the PTC’s this time around were a huge learning experience.”
You bet!
“I am not sure how or if I will change my approach next year.”
Oh, you’d better. [And yes, the bold/emphasis is mine.]
Especially if you’re going to remain teaching in New York State where I’m paying .00000000000000000001% of your salary and benefits. [Oh, and also if you’re sincerely interested in becoming a good teacher and/or having the slightest bit of self-respect.]
Please “change [your] approach” for the sake of the students and their families. You’re writing on the Edwize blog, for the love of God - something tells me there are competent educators in the UFT Rolodex. Go talk to a good one who can help you develop your relationship with parents.
Then go talk to some parents and people in the private sector. Then try out the strategies. Then evaluate them, rinse and repeat.
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